howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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Keith Sansum1
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it's one of those diifficult areas
having served on an adoption panel for many years, i can see how frustrating it can appear, but the balance being that speeding things up could mean problems being missed.
of course to help there are things that maybe could be removed
1; if people smoke they are frowned upon by some members of the panel
2; even slightly over weight persons are questioned more
on 2 i feel that should be removed as an obstacle altogether.
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howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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surely the only criteria for adoption should be that the child goes to loving parents?
the worst bit in the article is the one about babies, delays mean that there are problems settling the child in by the time it becomes a toddler, early adoption is so important here.
Jan Higgins
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Speaking as an adopted wartime baby, love is the most important thing with a very large full stop. My father loved me but my mother lost real interest in me once I started to grow up and was no longer the 'little girl' she could show off with.
The adoption agencies are much too picky, fitness, age, smoking, income, gay and single should not be included in the essential criteria after all a 'suitable' adopter could be run over by a bus (to use an expression) the day after the adoption is finalised.
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Keith Sansum1- Location: london
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jan
having sat on an adoption panel for a few years you would not believe how picky they are, also anyone wanting to adopt would be put off by how much panels/social services pry into there lives
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howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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keith
it all sounds to me that the more questions, the more interviews and home visits means that red tape takes precedence over the children.
Keith Sansum1- Location: london
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most people are put off by how much prying into there private lives goes on thus give up in the very early stages
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Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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Which is why things MUST change children need a stable background and love, the other things I mentioned earlier do not matter.
There is only one real no-no, abuse in any form one can think of.
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Keith Sansum1- Location: london
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thats one of the probs
such people will adapt to any such changes
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