Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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Amen Roger, gone but never forgotten. RIP Jean.
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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roger held up very well as indeed did jean's mum, as roger said the minister ran an excellent service.
Guest 650- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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Well done, Roger.
We spent much time watching the clock and thinking of you yesterday.
I do hope this won't seem presumptuous, but I'd like to say that I think Jean would have been very proud of you (as I'm sure she was always, anyway). Through your actions and your words you have paid the greatest compliments possible to her and your time together. You could not have done more to underline how much she meant - and will continue to mean.
Guest 660- Registered: 14 Mar 2008
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Hi Roger sorry just come back from North Wales so missed the funeral,would have been there.Just read the papers d=fitting tribute well done!
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Guest 756- Registered: 6 Jun 2012
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Hi Roger, hope you are ok, thinking of you.
Guest 656- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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And what a lovely service it was too, very fitting for such a lovely lady like Jean. Roger, your words were beautiful, you done Jean proud, well done xx
Guest 640- Registered: 21 Apr 2007
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We were away Roger so very sorry to have missed it. A sad time indeed.
Keith Sansum1
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nice service
thought the guy taking the service did a realy good job
as did Roger.
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Guest 653- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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Nothing much else to say really, I have appreciated everyone's kindness and am now trying to sort the practical things out.
I really was very happy to see so many people there and that many more would have come along if they could have.
Thank you all very much.
Roger
Keith Sansum1- Location: london
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you know where I am roger if you need help
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Jan Higgins
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Roger, you are now hitting the most difficult of times when all to soon you will have the time to realise you are again single after all those years of being a twosome and are without your best friend.
In a few weeks if not days you will need all your strength and that is when you must accept the help and comfort your family and friends will undoubtedly offer you.
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Guest 653- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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You are so right Jan. I have been busying myself so I don't keep thinking about being single again, but I do know and accept that is the case.
I also know that there are a number of people on the Forum who have gone through the same sadness and sense of loss, so can empathise with me.
I'm still not sure what to do with all Jean's clothes; I was advised not to get rid of them too soon, which haven't, but there are so many to give away/take to charity shops, they may not be able to take them all.
Leather gloves (small), various hand-bags, scarves and shoes (4 to 4 1/2) as well as the blouses, trousers, tops, dresses etc. etc. some not even worn.
They vary in sizes from 10 to 14, depending on her medication. I did wonder about trying to sell them through one of David's market-stalls and money raised could go to kidney research, but maybe it would be easier to take them to the various charity shops we have in Dover, they are all raise money for good causes.
If anyone would like to look through them, please don't be shy about it, call me (207551) or email me on
lindenrog@aol.com
Roger
Guest 904- Registered: 21 Mar 2013
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A word of advice from experience, if I may, Roger.
Don't dispose of Jean's clothes in a Dover shop, instead, take them to Canterbury or Ashford. The last thing you want is to donate them in Dover, then walk past someone in the town at some point in the future wearing her clothes.
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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I think that is good advice from Paul above. Many charity shops will collect if you have a large quantity of items to donate and also see if you can fill in a Gift Aid form; it only takes a minute and means the charity gets more money. Take care.
Guest 671- Registered: 4 May 2008
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You have a strong circle of family and friends and although I did not know Jean, it is obvious you have many memories and proud moments to remember, comfort you and keep you going.
As with all others on here Roger, if there is anything I can do to help, please just ask?
My thoughts are with you and your family.
"My New Year's Resolution, is to try and emulate Marek's level of chilled out, thoughtfulness and humour towards other forumites and not lose my decorum"
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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I also agree with Paul, my family have already been told to get rid of my clothing as 'rags' to charity if local or to take them out of the area. Rags by the way just means they are not sold in the area but are resorted in an area that is in a completely different part of the country. I cleared my husband's items straight after his death so my advice on that is it all depends on when YOU feel the time is right.
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Guest 698- Registered: 28 May 2010
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Charity shops in more affluent towns will also realise much more for the charity than in Dover. When we were living in Farnham I was surprised how much more they were charging for stuff.
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Guest 716- Registered: 9 Jun 2011
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Agree......Hythe is an ideal place..................
Guest 653- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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Thanks for those suggestions. I took just over a 100 items of Jean's to Hythe today and they were all very pleassed to receive them - pleased at the quality too.
I still have around that many left, plus some lovely tops, dresses, blouses etc. I think they have designer labels (Roman/Klass ? etc.).
Gloves, handbags and shoes and boots too.
I wanted to see if Kidney Research fund-raising department would like some for their Charity shops, but the nearest one to Dover, is Cardiff !!
They would like them for their Northern shops, but working how to collect them (the cheapest way) won't be easy.
They also have a sub-section of their fund-raising department that sell designer labels (I believe they are generally called dress-agencies ?), I think the shops take them and sell them and half the money they keep and half for Kidney Research.
There's a lot more room in the ward-robes now, so my clothes aren't all squashed together.
I don't know if anyone is interested, but I was going to send the photo that was on the Order of Service, to Howard or Colette, to put on here; if you would like to see what Jean looked like 25 years ago, let me know and I'll ask them to put it up.
Thanks again for the suggestion on Hythe - hope they raise good money for their causes.
Roger
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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sorry roger, didn't occur to me until you said - lovely photo.
