Im going into the age old theory of can there be a friendship between a man and a woman? i sadly have lost what used to be good mates due to the fact their other halfs didnt like them mixing with the opposite sex . So would like peoples opinions .
Melissa, it is very easy for males and females to be in a relationship and have opposite sex friends. The only proviso is the 'other woman' has to be deemed unattractive even to a blind person.
Sorry to say it, but the majority of females are very small minded when it comes to friends for their partners. I guess that must be due to some security or confidence defect in the female psyche'?
Men tend not to have such hang-ups.
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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Hmmm.....I probably have slightly more male friends than female friends. A lot of it stems from the fact that I worked in a male dominated (I was the only female) government department for years. I've been told by females that I am not really a girly girl - I love my shoes, bags and perfume don't get me wrong, but I like gadgets, crumbling buildings and cemeteries which means I come into contact with/talk to more men about that sort of stuff. I do a lot of photography too which is another top heavy male industry. I'm used to it now but some days I long for a girly chat. By nature I'm not a jealous person. I know I don't have to worry about my husbands female friends, he's known them for years and now they're my friends too. Likewise he has become friends with a lot of guys I know. I have had a couple of incidents whereby some of my male friends partners (it only tends to be newer friends) have viewed me with slight suspicion, but they soon realise that I am not interested in their partners in that way. I am a naturally 'huggy' person too but I have learned to curb that because not everyone is and that can be taken out of context. So for me yes I believe men and women can just be friends.
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Some women will never accept their husband having female friends, I know
Guest 645- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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I have had plenty of female friends whilst married......hence my divorces..
Marek
I think therefore I am (not a Tory supporter)
Guest 656- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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My ex husband is my bestest friend
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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@ Marek.
I think that's really nice Colette, it's great if ex's can even be civil to each other in this day and age!
Guest 675- Registered: 30 Jun 2008
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I am sure they can. My first wife was at my second marriage (we went to her third) and she was at the hen night so not sure why there should be a problem.
Politics, it seems to me, for years, or all too long, has been concerned with right or left instead of right or wrong.
Richard Armour
Guest 660- Registered: 14 Mar 2008
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I work better with women than men in general,if I am putting on a function I always ask a lady to help usually so I can bounce ideas of them,as they are normally more sensible and usually more trustworthy.
My ex wife turned up at my wedding,she wasn't invited but came because of a little bit of trouble with one of my neices,I nearly chocked on my drink when I saw her at the reception
If you knew what I know,we would both be in trouble!
Guest 693- Registered: 12 Nov 2009
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90%+ of my customers are women (men tend not to buy too much fabric, you know!) and a goodly number of them have become friends over the years. I'm fairly certain that Michelle has no problems with me spending ages chatting to women on the phone or at shows. Being honest, it really helps my sales if I flirt with them a bit, but it's all part of my business and Michelle knows that there are very few women that would have me!
I have a couple of really close female friends to whom I'm devoted, but ours is a strong marriage and I'm still madly in love with my wife after 17 years of being manacled together. I think it boils down to trust in the end. Michelle's surrounded by men all day and me by women when I'm doing public shows and quilting groups. So, Melissa, I think men and women can be friends - but on a different playing field to same sex friendships.
True friends stab you in the front.