howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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12 February 2010
20:1240433colin
an arranged marriage is when two sets of parents introduce what they see as a suitable couple to each other, the couple meet up and decide if they want see each other more.
their is nothing sinister in it, a hindu friend of mine was introduced to over 20 girls and then married someone else.
a forced marriage is not allowed in this country or any other country, to my knowledge.
these are very popular in rural communities of certain countries.
the police in this country have had a set up with the authorities in karachi, lahore and hydrabad for a long time now.
they have rescued many victims of these forced marriages and brought them back to the UK.
the main problem we have is this ignorance of the difference, teachers, social workers etc fail to notify the authorities
of a young girl or boy that has not turned up for school for some time.
sadly they are dopey enough to think it is part of someones culture.
Guest 690- Registered: 10 Oct 2009
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13 February 2010
02:2640465Sorry Howard, shot off to work before I could reply to you, suffice to say, it`s an education knowing you on here.
Tell them that I came, and no one answered.
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 62,352
13 February 2010
11:2240487colin
you have to live in a multicultural area for a long period to actually understand different peoples way fully.
the press loves to put out stories about hot cross buns being banned somewhere to appease muslims.
many times religious leaders have made clear that they are not offended by hot cross buns, christmas decorations or anything like that.
it is usually white middle class people that think they know better.
13 February 2010
12:174049313 February 2010
14:3040502Howard, 1981, Cleveland School in our old multicultural hometown. We were advised, by the school, to move away for the sake our childrens education.
Friday was, "teach the foreigners" English day. White kids had to attend school, but were put in the assmebly hall and allowed to play all day, no teaching for them 5 days a week. The Christmas show was cancelled so as not to offend those who didn't understand the Christian religion. A multicultural event replaced it, which only seemed to confuse the kids but made the PC mob happy. Not all the teachers subscribed to killing our culture, hence the advice.
So, I did live in multicultural area and luckily for my family, was able to get them out of it. Multiculturalsim of the early 80's was a one way street against the indigenous peoples of these islands, make no mistake.
PS. I am NOT a racist and have many friends not of my ethnic origin, or blacks, browns and yellows for those who like plain speaking.
13 February 2010
14:5740506Perhaps you were unlucky to experience it so insensitively. When I lived in London (many years ago) the multi-cultural effect was lovely! I think it was because the immigrant populations (jncluding my own Irish community) respected the "host" country and worked at self-support and integration without losing their own roots. We didn't expect the UK to bend to our will, although clearly we expected the same respect we gave the UK -sadly that was not always forthcoming and as a child I have memories of being spat at and verbally abused by Brits for my parents origins. But the overall effect was marvellous - we had jamaican and west indian food shops, colour, art, lots of chatter in different languages, and it all seemed to work really well on the whole. I still think it was around the respect thing and hte acknowledgment that the host country was the dominant culture (of course!!!) and that given the space to retain each cultures individuality it did not need to impact negatively on the host nation.
13 February 2010
15:0040507PS - I also, however, have memories of the immigration influx in the Black Country, where I also had English relatives. Without support and discussion the white British inhabitants around Wolverhampton and Birmingham did not understand what was happening, and I vividly remember some of my relatives - nice people, not racist, not unpleasant, not bad people - being really upset to see their neighbourhood change so quickly, the languages and the colours even, the feel of the place they called home change forever. It was hard for them, and of course they blamed the immigrants moving in.
